Sunday, July 17, 2011

Why I've Been M.I.A



My adventure is fast approaching, so in my spare time, I've tried to spend as much time as possible with all of the wonderful friends I will be leaving behind.  There have been some great nights of barbecues, dinners on patios, and catch-ups while watching Big Brother (guilty pleasure).

Most recently, I've had the chance to spend three glorious days in 30°C weather on the beach.  On Thursday, I spent the day at Centennial Beach in Barrie.  I had completely forgotten that they have a water jet like Geneva (jet d'eau) and it made me really excited to spend time along Lac Leman.  The beach was perfect.  Free parking, not too busy, and a slight mist from the jet.  The water was quite chilly, so most of our time was spent on the beach, until we needed to cool down.

The water jet at Centennial Beach


The view from our blanket.

Then for the rest of the weekend, I was cottaging along Georgian Bay near Collingwood.  Funniest thing though; one of my best friends has a cottage up in the area, and when I arrived up at the cottage we were staying at, all I was thinking was "wow, this beach looks really familiar.  I feel like _______'s cottage is nearby".  Little did I know, that cottage was RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET!  And when did I find out? As we were pulling out today and I saw her mum in their driveway.  It was a definite "doh!" moment.

Anyway, here are some pictures from my weekend.  The sun was hot, the clouds were few, and now my skin is decorated with some fantastic (and some hilarious) tan lines.  Enjoy!



Pathway from the cottage to the beach.  


Getting closer to the beach

Sunset


Sunday, July 3, 2011

A Little Borrowed Reading...

While browsing some blogs, I came upon this prose.  Absolutely loved it, and if you're a reader, you should too.  Enjoy.  And thanks to Meg at The Wild and Wily Ways of a Brunette Bombshell.


Date a Girl Who Reads by Rosemarie Urquico 

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Un Mois à Paris

Three years ago I was feeling the itch to travel, so I found a program in Paris for three weeks and jumped on a plane (Okay, it didn't happen that quickly since I'm not one to spontaneously travel.  I actually spent three months planning, but that's another story).  I then spent three amazing weeks in one of the most beautiful cities in the world.  I met some amazing people from all around the world and saw/did many things I wanted to 'tick' off my bucket list.  Since I will be a mere 3 hour train ride away in a few months, and one of the girls I met three years ago has moved there, I will be making Paris a destination while I'm in Europe.  Not gonna lie, I'll probably be there quite often (if my bank account allows).  Here are some pictures of my time there, as well as some 'tick' pictures.  Enjoy!


In the creepy catacombs.  I love this picture.

Still not entirely sure why there was a random thumb (maybe someone can enlighten me), but I still gave it a thumbs up!

See?  I did climb the Eiffel Tower

At Café des Deux Moulins.  I'm a huge Amelie fan.

Just outside the Louvre and Musée D'Orsay on the Seine.

Blurry, but the Eiffel Tower at night.

The Mona Lisa

Napoleon

Me in front of the Eiffel Tower

Me at the gardens of Versailles

Me and Versailles

Le Belvédère

Me in Le Hameau

Now I Can Go on The Amazing Race!

I can gladly say that today was a successful today.  At 1pm today I arrived at A Formula 1 Driving School in Vaughan, Ontario for my first manual transmission driving lesson.

I must start out by saying that I am not the most coordinated person.  There's a reason my mum didn't sign me up for dance or gymnastics.  Hence my hesitation to trust my two left feet to make a car move.

This is not to say that I can't drive.  I've been driving for roughly seven years now and I'd like to think I'm a fairly good driver.  But driving and changing the gears at the same time is a completely different story.  I was having a panic attack just looking at the stick shift.  There was no way I was going to be able to do this.

And then came Jeff, the owner and instructor of AF1.  His calm demeanour and straight-forward explanations put me at ease.  He sat me in the passenger seat and went through everything about the car and drove around a bit so I could see it all in action.  After he taught me a little trick or quip to remember something, he'd quiz me, which began to build my confidence as I got question after question right.  I started to feel good, and believe that I could do it.

And then he said, "Okay, I think you're ready.  Your turn."

All that confidence went down the drain, and every quip he had just said had suddenly escaped my mind.  All I thought to myself was I can't do this!


But Jeff talked me through it and as I slowly moved through the gears, my confidence returned.  He managed to remain calm, even after the eighth time I didn't push the clutch far enough down.  He remained positive and praised me when my shifts were good, and my starts were smooth.  After only an hour, I was on highway 400, something I didn't expect to do so soon.  And just after that, learning how to start on a hill.

I'm proud to say that I didn't stall once.  But I can't say that was because I knew what I was doing, but because I had an excellent teacher.

I have my second (and last) two hour lesson tomorrow.  I'm really excited to go, and even more excited to drive in Geneva.  And as I told Jeff, "Now I can go on the Amazing Race!"...well, once I become an American, that is.

If you live in the Greater Toronto Area, and you're looking for lessons, I highly recommend Jeff.  He's a great instructor, and is far less expensive than CAA.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Food Fridays - Dip Off

There has always been a debate between a co-worker and myself about who's taco dip was better than the other person's.  Since this past Sunday was my final shift with her, we decided to have a "Dip Off" to settle the score.  We each brought in our dips (at 9am - not the best time for a dip off), and at 11:30am, once all the staff had arrived, we had our dip off.  Obviously, our staff was too nice to name a winner, so we settled for a tie.  Since our dips were both very different, we agreed that it would be too hard to judge.  But deep down, we both think that we won.

Anyway, here's a picture of a dips before we chowed down.  The sight afterward wasn't too pretty, so I won't show you that.

Mine is on the left (a traditional multi-layer dip with tomatoes, peppers, green onion, salsa, mayo and cream cheese) and my co-worker's is the one on the right (with celery and black olives on top, and taco dip mix combined with the cream cheese)

Friday, June 24, 2011

Food Fridays - Cod and Green Beans

This week's culinary experiment was baked cod and garlic green beans.  Mostly a result of what I had in the fridge.  The house smelled like garlic for a while, sorry Mum, but I think they turned out.

Pre-baked

In the frying pan

Finished product

Any recipes to suggest?  Any attempts you've made recently?

Hope everyone has a great weekend!


Saturday, June 18, 2011

Food Fridays

It's been a while, hasn't it?  I'm still alive, just don't have much to report.  My life has been work, work, see a friend, work, work, work.  Fun, eh?

But when I do have some free time I've been using it to practice my cooking.  When I go to Switzerland I'll be cooking for a family of 5 (the 6th will be away at University), and I feel like I should probably make them something more than peanut butter sandwiches and Kraft Dinner every day.  So I've decided to add a new theme to my blog, Food Fridays!  I'll share my cooking achievements, and failures.  Feel free to recommend some recipes!

So for this week, I attempted to make grilled Portobello mushrooms and asparagus.  I think they came out quite well:






I'm not much of a plater, so please ignore how boring it looks.  

The mushrooms were very easy to make.  I actually got the idea from my uncle after countless holiday dinners.  He had the brilliant idea of adding grilled Portobello mushrooms to Calabrese salads.  Delicious!  He normally makes cracked peppercorn mushrooms, but I just did a simple onion and garlic marinade.  

The asparagus were even simpler.  All I did was brush them with olive oil, salt and pepper.  

The mushrooms will be part of a brie and mushroom wrap that I'm making for work tomorrow.  The asparagus will come with me to work tonight.  I might make some more to go with the wrap.

Any recipe ideas you'd like to share?  I'm always looking (especially for gluten free recipes!).

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Next up I'll have a post on the Paris trip I took in 2008.  I just realized I never shared the details of it.  I was smart enough to document everything I did (through emails home) so I may make it into a multi-post.  We'll see how it goes. 

Until then, have a great Friday and a great weekend!

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Summer has Arrived

When I first decided to start this blog, I figured it would be a blog for my family and friends to keep track of my year abroad.  Then I began to explore other expat and travel blogs discovering groups and forums like Expat Blog and Expat Women.  From there I have come in contact with some wonderful people who have offered their wisdom and support.  I never expected such a welcoming community online, but I am happy I found it, and thank you all for your generosity.

It has come time for the summer lifeguard trainings for the City and it has suddenly hit me that my trip is fast approaching.  Now that school is done and my friends are home for the summer, I can't wait to spend my last few months with some of my closest friends.  We've already scheduled a camping trip and bought tickets to see Drake on July 31st.  We're also looking to plan some cottage weekends, day trips, and some adventures around Toronto.

What are you planning for the summer?  Any suggestions for some fun day activities?

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Spare a Few Minutes?

As a mentioned in an earlier post, my cousin is trying to earn a spot in the DeforestAction campaign in Borneo.  He made the top 20, and now needs to raise $5000 and have 500 followers to be considered for the top ten.  Please spare a few minutes and follow this link.  Sign up for an account and then follow my cousin.  If you also have some money to spare for an amazing cause, you can also donate.  If you donate, you will get a certificate for every 25 square metres you preserve in Indonesia ($25).  You can check out one of my certificates below.


So please spare a few minutes to help my cousin spend 100 days in Borneo saving the planet.

Thank you.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Another Tick - 5K Done

My Medal :)

As I said before, I don't think I'll ever get the "runner's high", but I now understand the "racer's high".  There's nothing like running towards a giant finish line with hundreds of people chanting, giving you chocolate and a new shiny medal.  Today I ran my first (of many, I hope) 5k.  I ran in the Toronto Women's Run to benefit POGO (Paediatric Oncology Group of Ontario).  My aunt (author of Barb Still Running) ran the half marathon and got a PR.  Wahoo!  I of course got a PR too.  But that's because I hadn't ran before.

The race was in Sunnybrook park and I couldn't have got better weather.  I was stressing earlier since the always reliable weatherman was predicting hot, humid, sunny weather.  When I woke up this morning it was raining.  Luckily when the race started, the weather had shifted to overcast.  Other than dodging giant puddles, the course was great.  Apparently the 5K-ers lucked out and didn't get all the hills the Half Marathoners did (although they were promised flat terrain).

Me at the Start/Finish pre-race.  Notice the nicely blow dried hair.

Seconds after I finished.  Hair now a disaster.

My Aunt finishing her race.

Time check.

Yay!

Me and my Aunt after the race

And again

How was your weekend?  Do anything exciting?  Have you ticked off anything on your bucket list recently?

Friday, May 27, 2011

When the Canadian Legal System Boggles My Mind...

Why is this not common sense?  Why does this need to be decided?  And most importantly, why did three Supreme Court judges vote against this?

http://www.google.com/hostednews/canadianpress/article/ALeqM5gm6rwXpOUk-OgtRFAc7__Uv6rQeA?docId=6974263

Speechless

Quite a Bit Off Topic

First off, I want to welcome all the new readers I've had in the past few days.  Welcome, and feel free to leave comments.  I love comments.  And of course, a very big welcome and thanks to my two new followers.  Glad you found me somewhat entertaining.

Secondly, in Visa news, all my documentation has been sent off to Switzerland (for the low price of $54.11) and now I'm just waiting to hear the (hopefully) good news.

And now on to my completely off-topic discussion: my very nerdy and unhealthy obsession with books.  Ask anyone who knows me.  I always have a book with me, and usually a couple more in case I finish the first book.  Working as a lifeguard, there are days where a book (or a series of books) come in handy.  Canada doesn't exactly have the most temperate weather.  But since I learned to read, my mother has been asking me to put that book down and go do something (not exactly the worst thing a kid could be doing rather than doing chores).  I still relish reading time, especially those stormy days when there's nothing better to do than cuddle up with a book and escape to a new (sunnier) world.  And since I found time last weekend to bask in the sun, its been nothing but rain every since.  However, this means that I've read quite a few books recently, and here is my list of my favourites:

The Secret Daughter by Shilpi Somaya Gowda


Think of a Number by John Verdon


A Million Little Pieces by James Frey


Sarah's Key by Tatiana de Rosnay


Shanghai Girls by Lisa See


Prayers for Sale by Sandra Dallas


All of these books will have you hooked from the start (except maybe Prayers for Sale, but keep pushing through.  It gets a lot better).  And the best thing?  They're all available on Amazon.  If you're interested in trying any of these books out, click on the Amazon bar up at the top.  Doesn't get any easier than that!

How about you?  Have you read any books lately that you would recommend?  I'm always looking for another book to read.







Saturday, May 21, 2011

Working on my Bucket List

Me enjoying the beautiful weather in my backyard

As you may have seen on my Bucket List page, one of my goals is to run a 5k.  Back in January, I thought it would be a great idea (and enough time to train) for the Toronto Women's Run 2011 in Sunnybrook Park on May 29th.  So since January, I've been attempting to train.  I've never been a runner.  I've never experienced the runner's 'high' and would much rather bike, blade or swim.  Despite this, I have been running as much as I can.

Today I went on my run down the Humber River Ravine.  Not my best run.  The temperature in Toronto is hovering around 25 degrees (Celsius) without a cloud in the sky.  Running at 2pm on the hottest day so far this year might not have been my most brilliant idea.  I sure hope it's not this hot next Sunday.  I may end up walking a lot more than I planned.

Anyway, along my route, I stopped to take some pictures.  The river has swollen with all the rain from the past week.  And the mural is from under a bridge.  I wish my Blackberry had a better camera on it.  These really don't do the day any justice.

Amazing mural under the bridge

More of the mural


End of the mural

Canada Goose cooling off in the overflowing river

The Humber River

How's your weekend been so far?  Have you been enjoying the weather (if you have the sun like we do?)?

Friday, May 20, 2011

Travel Cuts is My Saviour!


Well yesterday's finger crossing paid off.  Travel Cuts came through with the cheapest insurance by far and signed my form! Not only were the prices great, but the customer service was fantastic.  They were quick and efficient, and honestly made me feel like they appreciated my business.  Such a great experience.  If you are under 50 and looking for travel insurance, flights, or packages, I highly recommend using Travel Cuts.  You will not regret it.

So now I'm putting together all of my visa forms, crossing my fingers that Canada Post doesn't go on strike.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

A Week of Ups and Downs

After meeting with the F.E., I've been trying to figure out all the details for my Swiss visa.  Despite how simple it seemed, it has not been the easiest task.  Overall, the application is very straight forward, but one form has thrown me through the wringer.  The 'Check for Equivalent of Swiss Health Insurance' form has not been the easiest to complete.  To give you an idea, this is what I have been running around doing this week.

First of all, I need travel insurance.  Sounds simple right?  Not so much.  In order to get this, I need proof that OHIP (Ontario Health Insurance Plan) will still insure me since I will be gone longer than their alotted 212 days.  So I had to go to Service Ontario…

 Not so simple...

Service Ontario required a letter from my employer  stating why I will be out of the country and when I will be returning.  The F.E very quickly supplied me with the letter, so I went to the offices yesterday.  Since the the F.E is in Switzerland, I obviously did not have her signature on the letter.  Service Ontario was not impressed.  They also had an issue with the letter not being on a letterhead.  Seriously?!  I'm working for a family, and other than the royal family, who has their own letterhead?  After talking them out of needing a letterhead, they requested another letter with an actual signature and the telephone number of the F.E (thankfully it could be a faxed or scanned copy).  I quickly shot off an email to her, and within the hour had my new letter.  I went back to the Service Ontario office and this time they approved the letter and extended my OHIP.  Yay!  But that didn't solve all my problems…

OHIP won't sign my visa form.  Since they don't cover ambulance costs and a few other costs, they won't sign the form that stipulates they will be covering it.  Ugh.  They did however, give me a form that states what they do cover.  Cross your fingers this will be enough.  So I started to contact travel insurance companies to see if they will sign my form.  And guess what?  They all said no.  "We don't sign anything.  We only send you a copy of your policy."  Great.  But thanks to another one of my amazing aunts and her connections, I may have found a company that will sign the form: Manulife Financial.  If all my other options fall through, it sounds like I'll be going with them.  CAA (aka, Manulife prices on steroids) also said they'd sign if I could prove that the copy of the policy was not enough documentation.  This would be all fine and dandy, but my bank account is crying at my quoted prices.  So I've found another option:  Travel Cuts.  With a target audience of mostly students, this company offers RBC insurance at a seriously discounted price.  I plan on going to the office at York University tomorrow to see if they will sign my form.  Cross your fingers!

After all that, I'm hoping that I'll have all my completed forms in hand along with all the other required documentation (passport photo, CV, request letter to the Swiss Government, copy of passport) and mail it to the F.E on the weekend.  I just hope all goes to plan…

In other news, today is my 23rd birthday!  I had a wonderful brunch with a few of my friends this morning, and tonight we are hitting the town.  It'll be nice to see all my friends, because with school and work, I haven't had much 'friends time'.  Hopefully I'll have some pictures to post after tonight.

And thank to my parents, I will be starting manual transmission driving lessons very shortly.  Thanks!

Now on to you.  Have you had to apply for a visa to move to another country?  Have you had to apply for a Swiss visa?  What sort of issues (if any) did you have?

Have a great Victoria Day weekend (if you're from a Commonwealth country)! 

Thursday, May 5, 2011

We've Made the History Textbooks! And I didn't sleep...

As I'm sure you're well aware (thanks to social media), this weekend is close to being the most historically significant weekend in recent history.  And I feel, as a Canadian, the three events had the greatest overall affect on Canada.  Let me explain...

1.  The Royal Wedding
        
            As part of the British Commonwealth and a former British colony, Canada has many ties to the Crown.  Elizabeth II is still our Queen, although we do have a government that has more say on policy (see #3).  As a Canadian, I did wake up at 5:45am EST to watch the wedding on Friday, April 29th, since the couple could very well be our next King and Queen.  And thanks to social media (once again), I'd feel like I was missing something if I didn't watch.  I was the only one in my immediate family to watch (my mum shouted down to me a couple times asking if they'd kissed yet), but a few members of my extended family did.

2.  Osama bin Laden's Death

           I remember exactly where I was on September 11th.  I remember being brought to the history classroom (very suiting, eh?) to watch the news.  I remember being terrified that due to Canada's close proximity to the United States, and especially New York City, that we could also be targeted.  I also remember former US President Bush announcing the War on Terrorism, and once again my fear of the impact on Canada.  As I devoted cross-boarder shopper, I also remember the inconvenience of added boarder security.  But I will always remember where I was May 1st, 2011 when I read (on Facebook of all places) the news that bin Laden had been killed.  I consider it a significant event when my sleep schedule is affected.  As with the Royal Wedding, I gave up sleep to watch the news and wait for Obama's speech.  It's amazing how one event can just about cement someone's re-election.

3.  The Canadian Federal Election

This is what Canada looked like, circa 2005 (Dark blue: Conservative, Red: Liberal, Orange: NDP, Light Blue: Bloc Quebecois)

           Politics fascinates me.  And I was absolutely incredulous when I saw the political map of Canada at 10:30pm on Monday, May 2nd.  For the first time in history, the NDP (New Democratic Party) led by Jack Layton, became the Party of the Opposition.  The Conservatives were re-elected, and Stephen Harper got his majority leadership.  The Liberals, on the other hand, were left in the dust.   Both Michael Ignatieff of the Liberal party and Gilles Duceppe of the Bloc Quebecois stepped down from their roles as party leaders after they both lost their own riding, along with a lot of seats.  Good news: Elizabeth May of the Green Party won her first seat ever in British Columbia.

This is what Canada looks like now:
Do you now understand how shocked I am?  This is crazy!


Overall, it's pretty clear that this past weekend was one epic weekend for Canada, and the world.  We made the history textbooks, everyone!

Monday, May 2, 2011

Ready to Jump on That Plane

I'm happy to say that Sunday's meeting with the future employer* went well.  My mother ended up joining me, which I was glad she did.  I was a bit nervous on the way there, and she kept my nerves in check.  Although I'm not sure who was more nervous, me or her.

Funny story though: We were scheduled to meet the future employer at her sister's house downtown.  My mum and I left with plenty of time to spare (and it was Sunday, so the traffic was minimal) and our only issue was finding parking on the street.  Luckily I got there about 15 minutes early, so that gave me enough time to prowl through the neighbourhood to find a spot.  I found a spot a block away with five minutes to spare, so we walked leisurely to the house.

We arrived at the house a few minutes before 9am, but rather than standing outside the house until 9 like creeps, I went up and knocked.  After a few moments of no answer, I knocked again.  Still no answer.  My mum started to laugh nervously and ask, "are you sure this is the address?  Are you sure you're to meet at 9am?  Is it today, not another Sunday?" and I started to worry.  Thank goodness for technology since I was able to look up the confirmation email on my phone.  It was the right day, time and location.  Why was no one answering?  Had they forgotten?

I then tried calling (I was hesitating since it was 9am on a Sunday.  Who calls then??).  She answered after the first ring, and I asked, "You're number ___** right?"  Nope, she wasn't.  She was actually a different house down the street a bit.  Oops!  I'd been knocking on some random person's door at 9am on a Sunday.  SORRY!  No wonder no one answered.  I wouldn't!

Long story longer, my mum and I walked down to the right house, and met the future employer, her sister, and her eldest son.  Oh, and the sister's dog, Freckles.  We then went to the nearest Starbucks to sit down and chat.  We spent roughly an hour going over some paperwork for my visa, exchanging questions/answers (I even had questions from the two other sons to answer), and discussing our expectations for the year.  I had a fair list of questions to ask, and many of them the F.E (future employer) answered  during her discussion of her expectations.  My mum piped in a couple times with a few questions of her own, especially when it came to health insurance and emergency situations.  But all of my questions were answered, and from Skype and now meeting them in person, I can say that their family seems to be the most genuine family.  I am so excited to go work for them!

I now have some paperwork to finish and mail to Switzerland.  In order to complete the paperwork, I need to get my medical insurance figured out, update my CV, write my letter of why I want to work in Switzerland, and get new passport sized photos for my visa.  I may cry a bit when I see next month's credit card statement, but it's all worth it in the end.

It's all starting to fall in place now, and soon I'll be zipping up my luggage and heading off to the airport. I can't wait!



*Out of respect for the privacy of everyone, I won't post the names of anyone without their permission.  I will either refer to them by a "title" or a made up name.

** She'd actually given me HER house number, not her sister's.  Now I'll never forget their house number!